It’s become human nature to look at what we have and then assign a value to our lives based on what somebody else has.
When you think about it, this isn’t the best way to cultivate gratitude. And a life without gratitude will always be empty.
A life built on comparisons will never be a life of happiness.
Like the person who will never be happy with his/her spouse simply because they always compare their marriage to someone else’s. Or the parent who’s always expecting his/her children to behave the way they’ve noticed someone else’s children behaving. Or the person who does nothing to improve his/her own circumstances but spends all their time looking at others leading happy lives.
Sure, looking at the way somebody else leads their life could be a great motivator for you. It could inspire you to try harder or be more creative or never lose hope. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
But if you’re planning to be grateful for your marriage, kids, spouse, job, home etc. only when you get the same thing that somebody else has, you need to start running your own race.
Realise that your circumstances are unique. They’re designed with your optimal growth in mind. Don’t spend so much time looking at what someone else has, that you have no time or energy left to understand the blessings in your life.