It’s easy, even natural, to want to spend time and energy on something that challenges your worldview or hurts your feelings.
9 times out of 10 though, whatever we’re focusing our attention on doesn’t take us closer to the happiness we’re looking for.
Here are some examples:
- The facebook post that expresses an opinion contrary to yours. Do you really need to spend time (which you will never ever get back) arguing why you believe it’s wrong? Are you happier once you’ve made your point?
- The caller / presenter on the radio who just said something you feel is preposterous. Do you need to rant about it for the next few days? Does the value in your life increase after that?
- The hurtful statements your friend / ex-spouse / colleagues made about you.
I’m not saying you should ignore all of these completely by flipping some magical emotion switch.
Just answer this before you devote even more of your life to something that quite possibly isn’t adding any value to your life : Will it matter in your last hour on earth?